Tuesday, July 23, 2013

Questions To Be Asked During Courtship - Part 1 - Questions 1-6

Since I have become "of age" for marriage and so forth, I have thought a lot about what I would "want" to agree on the most with my future spouse. What would be a hindrance in our marriage and what wouldn't be?What would we need to agree on most? This is my list of questions and reasons. Dedicated first to my parents; because of what they taught me and second, to my future spouse.

1) Do you believe in baptizing children and giving them communion? Including infants? If not, why? 
 {My reasons for believing in infant communion and baptism are this:
Communion "replaced" Passover. During the Passover, all of the family joined in the celebration. Since the whole family joined in the Passover, I believe the whole family should partake of communion. Also, I think that when Christ said: "Hinder not the little children to come unto me", I think it meant at the table too. Something I have always thought about is this: As a child you "want" to be big and be like the adults. We want maturity. Part of the way children become mature is in letting them do big things. Children not taking communion seem to take a much longer time to grasp the concept of Christ in communion. Why would we deny them the gift Christ is and gave?

2) Do you believe that children are a blessing from the Lord? The fruit of the womb his reward? Do you believe in letting God decide how many children we are to have and not ourselves?
   Psalm 127:3-4 "Lo, Children are an heritage of the LORD: and the fruit of the womb his reward. As arrows are in the hand of a mighty man; so are children of the youth."

3) What are some things you would like to keep out of our marriage
  These are some things I would like to keep out of our marriage:
~The television. Over the years, I have noticed that the television divides a lot of family time. I would like this to stay out of our lives so that we can give more time to HIS word, His glory, and our family/ies. This would not be an easy sacrifice for me. But, I believe it is a good one.  Would you agree with this?

4) What is the biblical role for a woman?
     {My view: Women should be a Keeper at Home. They are not have jobs outside of their home unless it is under the headship of her husband.
 Titus 2:3-5 "The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, Keepers-at-Home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed." 

5) Do you believe that the church should be family integrated?
    {The duty of training children was give to the Parents. Not the Sunday School teachers or Children's Church.}

6) As a Father/Husband do you see yourself as the leader and head? Just as Christ is the Head of the Church?
{I believe that a man is the Head. In Genesis 3:16 God is speaking to Eve after The Fall:
"Your desire shall be for your husband; and he shall RULE over you."

These are only the first few questions that I have thought of. I will be posting more. Thank you for reading and I hope you learned some new things or received some ideas for your courtship.