Thursday, November 21, 2013

Questions To Be Asked During Courtship - Part 2 - questions 7-9

Question 7 - When/If we were to marry would you freely and joyfully have my family over? Do you love them or would you find it a burden to visit them after our marriage? I ask this question, because, I have know couples who, after they were married, the wife hardly ever saw her family because the husband hated/disliked them. I don't want this to be a matter of contention in our family. I want all of our families, to love each other and if possible, get together often.

Question 8 (similair to question 5)- What are your ideals on schooling? I want to homeschool. Private, Christian, and Public schools end up in disasters. I believe that the Bible gave the Children to the parents, for the parents to raise; not schools, and Sunday schools.

 "Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it."
Proverbs 22:6

 "You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, and with all your soul, and with all your might.Keep these words that I am commanding you today in your heart. Recite them to your children and talk about them when you are at home and when you are away, when you lie down and when you rise. Bind them as a sign on your hand, fix them as an emblem on your forehead.." Deuteronomy 6:5-8

Question 9 - What is your idea on what homeschooling is like? Do you think that children should be geniuses on all subjects. Or do you think that "simple" schooling is best? By simple schooling, I mean that the Children should know how to read, write, do arithmetic, science and history. ( When I mention Science and History I don't mean for them to memorize every date or remember every detail. If it's in there interest, they can pursue it on their own.) The reason I ask this, is because, I have seen book smart "geniuses"  who don't have any idea on how to survive in the real world. And they are always talking about things that are way over peoples heads! I don't mean our children should be stupid, I think they should be smart -but not so book smart that NO one knows what they are talking about. Or if they are smart, that they know how to talk to people that are on their "level" of thinking. - and know how to teach themselves and survive in the real world. What are your thoughts?

Some Thoughts About How to Know the True Character of Your "Guy"

Some thoughts on how to get to know our "Date" have come to my mind. I have often heard people say that the spouse they had married is nothing like the spouse they dated. No matter who you are, or how you court/date, you will see sides of each other that you never thought you would have seen.

 Going out with him is a good way to get know him, yes. But true character can be hid. Spend time with his family. Ask his mother, sisters, friends, what his tastes are, his passions, but most of all ask them his faults and good qualities. How does he treat his sisters? His brothers? What is his respect towards his father? Is he honoring to him and his mother? If he doesn't respect his family, he isn't going to respect you, after you are married. Remember, this is the guy you will be married to for life. We want to be able to know his true character, BEFORE we say " I do". We need to know what to expect as his help-meet. If we don't, we may have a husband we promised ourselves we would never have.

Let your Dad go on "dates" with the guy. Watch how he treats your Father, your Mother and your silblings. (If He is or you are an only Child, watch how he treats other children. THIS is very important! If you are going to be trusting the Lord on the size of your family, then you need a man who will love the roll of a father.)  If he scoffs/laughs at some of the ways your parents believe or do things, then that should send up a red flag.

Just some thoughts... ;)

Wednesday, October 16, 2013

Pleasure Makes for a Poor Man

"Whoever loves pleasure will become a poor man." Proverbs 21:17 This passage brings my mind to the parables that Jesus taught. The Rich Fool, The Rich Young Ruler, The Prodigal Son, The Rich Man and Lazuras, and there is a section in Ecclesiastes that comes to mind. Before we look at those, I would like to point out what kind of pleasures Proverbs is speaking of.The Bible has a lot to say about riches, poverty,  and pleasures. The second part of the Proverbs verse says: " whoever loves wine and oil will not be rich. This leads me to conclude that this particular verse is speaking of worldly pleasures. Such as possessions and pleasures of the flesh. Seeking these things makes us poor. Not only in body, but in mind and spirit.

Luke 12:13-21 is the parable of the Rich Fool. It quotes:
"Someone in the crowd said to him, "Teacher, tell my brother to divide the inheritance with me." But he said to him, "Man, who made me a judge or arbitrator over you?" And he said to them, "Take care, and be on your guard against all covetousness, for one's life does not consist in the abundance of his possessions." And he told them a parable, saying, "The land of a rich man produced plentifully, and he thought to himself, 'What shall I do, for I have nowhere to store my crops?' And he said, 'I will do this: I will tear down my barns and build larger ones, and there I will store all my grain and my goods. And I will say to my soul, Soul, you have ample goods laid up for many years; relax, eat, drink, be merry.' But God said to him, 'Fool! This night your soul is required of you, and the things you have prepared, whose will they be?' So is the one who lays up treasure for himself and is not rich toward God."
(Luke 12:13-21 ESV)
In Verse 15 Jesus speaks about guarding yourself from greed. Worldly pleasure can be turned into greed. And because it can, it makes for a terrible person. Selfish and unkind. A person whose pleasures and treasures are in the wrong place.

In Ecclesiastes 2 it says:
"I said in my heart, "Come now, I will test you with pleasure; enjoy yourself." But behold, this also was vanity. I said of laughter, "It is mad," and of pleasure, "What use is it?" I searched with my heart how to cheer my body with wine--my heart still guiding me with wisdom--and how to lay hold on folly, till I might see what was good for the children of man to do under heaven during the few days of their life. I made great works. I built houses and planted vineyards for myself. I made myself gardens and parks, and planted in them all kinds of fruit trees. I made myself pools from which to water the forest of growing trees... Then I considered all that my hands had done and the toil I had expended in doing it, and behold, all was vanity and a striving after wind, and there was nothing to be gained under the sun." (Ecclesiastes 2:1-6,11, ESV)
In Ecclesiastes we find that the pleasure being sought is good and profitable, and it makes him rich. Useful pleasure gives a man great gain. Yet, it to, is vanity. Why would useful pleasure be vanity? The pleasure being spoken of here is a pleasure that builds treasures on earth instead of in heaven. When we seek things of this world, we need to make sure that the pleasure we seek stores treasures in heaven, not on earth. 

In Luke 18 we find the parable of the Rich Young Ruler, who says to Christ:
 "Good Teacher, what must I do to inherit eternal life?" And Jesus said to him, "Why do you call me good? No one is good except God alone. You know the commandments: 'Do not commit adultery, Do not murder, Do not steal, Do not bear false witness, Honor your father and mother.'" And he said, "All these I have kept from my youth." When Jesus heard this, he said to him, "One thing you still lack. Sell all that you have and distribute to the poor, and you will have treasure in heaven; and come, follow me." But when he heard these things, he became very sad, for he was extremely rich. Jesus, seeing that he had become sad, said, "How difficult it is for those who have wealth to enter the kingdom of God! For it is easier for a camel to go through the eye of a needle than for a rich person to enter the kingdom of God." Those who heard it said, "Then who can be saved?" But he said, "What is impossible with men is possible with God." (Luke 18:18-27 ESV)
The Rich Young Rulers pleasure, was in his wealth. Even though he sought his pleasures- his riches- over Christ, he did not become poor in reality, but he became poor in spirit and did not store his treasures in heaven.

This leads me on to the Parable of the Rich Man and Lazuras. 
"There was a rich man who was clothed in purple and fine linen and who feasted sumptuously every day. And at his gate was laid a poor man named Lazarus, covered with sores, who desired to be fed with what fell from the rich man's table. Moreover, even the dogs came and licked his sores. The poor man died and was carried by the angels to Abraham's side. The rich man also died and was buried, and in Hades, being in torment, he lifted up his eyes and saw Abraham far off and Lazarus at his side. And he called out, 'Father Abraham, have mercy on me, and send Lazarus to dip the end of his finger in water and cool my tongue, for I am in anguish in this flame.' But Abraham said, 'Child, remember that you in your lifetime received your good things, and Lazarus in like manner bad things; but now he is comforted here, and you are in anguish."
(Luke 16:19-25 ESV) The Rich Man took pleasure in all his riches and glory,  having all his good things on earth. The Scraps the dogs ate were not even given to Lazuras. If they had been, the rich man may have had riches in heaven for "having had a kindness shown". Again, we see the rich man was poor in spirit and his after life. Riches on earth are a vanity.

Lastly, we look at the Prodigal Son. And he said, " 'There was a man who had two sons. And the younger of them said to his father, 'Father, give me the share of property that is coming to me.' And he divided his property between them. Not many days later, the younger son gathered all he had and took a journey into a far country, and there he squandered his property in reckless living. And when he had spent everything, a severe famine arose in that country, and he began to be in need. So he went and hired himself out to one of the citizens of that country, who sent him into his fields to feed pigs. And he was longing to be fed with the pods that the pigs ate, and no one gave him anything. "But when he came to himself, he said, 'How many of my father's hired servants have more than enough bread, but I perish here with hunger! I will arise and go to my father, and I will say to him, "Father, I have sinned against heaven and before you. I am no longer worthy to be called your son. Treat me as one of your hired servants."' And he arose and came to his father..." (Luke 15:11-20 ESV) Again, we see pleasures in riches, parties, and possessions. Everything he owned  was gone, and he decided to become a servant in his fathers house. Asking his forgiveness, and begging to be a servant just so he can have some decent meals. Here we see repentance. The Parable continues:
"... But while he was still a long way off, his father saw him and felt compassion, and ran and embraced him and kissed him. And the son said to him, 'Father, I have sinned against heaven and before you. I am no longer worthy to be called your son.' But the father said to his servants, 'Bring quickly the best robe, and put it on him, and put a ring on his hand, and shoes on his feet. And bring the fattened calf and kill it, and let us eat and celebrate. " (Luke 15:20-23 ESV) Because of this man's repentance and shame, he was forgiven! His poor state was no longer poor. His repentance not only gave him riches in heaven, but also restored him to his fathers love. This parable helps us see that when we give up our worldly pleasures, when we repent, it makes us rich in mind, spirit, and body. It makes us rich in CHRIST! 

Tuesday, July 23, 2013

Questions To Be Asked During Courtship - Part 1 - Questions 1-6

Since I have become "of age" for marriage and so forth, I have thought a lot about what I would "want" to agree on the most with my future spouse. What would be a hindrance in our marriage and what wouldn't be?What would we need to agree on most? This is my list of questions and reasons. Dedicated first to my parents; because of what they taught me and second, to my future spouse.

1) Do you believe in baptizing children and giving them communion? Including infants? If not, why? 
 {My reasons for believing in infant communion and baptism are this:
Communion "replaced" Passover. During the Passover, all of the family joined in the celebration. Since the whole family joined in the Passover, I believe the whole family should partake of communion. Also, I think that when Christ said: "Hinder not the little children to come unto me", I think it meant at the table too. Something I have always thought about is this: As a child you "want" to be big and be like the adults. We want maturity. Part of the way children become mature is in letting them do big things. Children not taking communion seem to take a much longer time to grasp the concept of Christ in communion. Why would we deny them the gift Christ is and gave?

2) Do you believe that children are a blessing from the Lord? The fruit of the womb his reward? Do you believe in letting God decide how many children we are to have and not ourselves?
   Psalm 127:3-4 "Lo, Children are an heritage of the LORD: and the fruit of the womb his reward. As arrows are in the hand of a mighty man; so are children of the youth."

3) What are some things you would like to keep out of our marriage
  These are some things I would like to keep out of our marriage:
~The television. Over the years, I have noticed that the television divides a lot of family time. I would like this to stay out of our lives so that we can give more time to HIS word, His glory, and our family/ies. This would not be an easy sacrifice for me. But, I believe it is a good one.  Would you agree with this?

4) What is the biblical role for a woman?
     {My view: Women should be a Keeper at Home. They are not have jobs outside of their home unless it is under the headship of her husband.
 Titus 2:3-5 "The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, Keepers-at-Home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed." 

5) Do you believe that the church should be family integrated?
    {The duty of training children was give to the Parents. Not the Sunday School teachers or Children's Church.}

6) As a Father/Husband do you see yourself as the leader and head? Just as Christ is the Head of the Church?
{I believe that a man is the Head. In Genesis 3:16 God is speaking to Eve after The Fall:
"Your desire shall be for your husband; and he shall RULE over you."

These are only the first few questions that I have thought of. I will be posting more. Thank you for reading and I hope you learned some new things or received some ideas for your courtship.